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Carmine Gallo
Carmine Gallo, Contributor
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6/11/2012 @ 11:52AM |350,969 views

Homeless Man Turned Millionaire Offers The Best Advice I Ever Got

English: Chris Gardner attending the AARP's 20...
Chris Gardner (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I spend 60 hours a week on my business but I don’t work for a minute. Work is hard. But what I do—writing, speaking, researching, learning, and sharing information— is pure joy. It’s what I was called to do. But often what we’re called to do and what we choose to do are different. As an undergraduate student at UCLA I chose to study for the law school entrance exam because it was the accepted path for a political science major. I could have gone to a top law school, but I didn’t love the law. I loved reading inspiring speeches in a publication called Vital Speeches of the Day. I loved watching great broadcast journalists like Peter Jennings. I would analyze how he spoke—the inflections, volume, and pacing. I chose to pursue my calling and enrolled in journalism school. I spent the next twelve years as a broadcast journalist before leaving the industry to leverage my skills in other ways.
“What’s the best advice you ever got?” At the end of a recent podcast interview, the host asked me, “What’s the best advice you ever got?” Before I tell you what I said allow me to rewind to 2007 when I had another career decision to make: hold on to a large, steady paycheck as the vice president of a global PR firm or commit full-time to my growing writing and public speaking business. At the time I was doing some freelance writing and I interviewed the real-life Chris Gardner, the man who actor Will Smithportrayed in the movie, The Pursuit of Happyness (‘happyness’ is purposely misspelled in the title. You’ll have to read the book or watch the movie to find out why). Gardner told me the true story of how he spent nights in the bathroom of a subway station along with his 2-year-old son. In the daytime Gardner would put on his one suit, drop off his kid at daycare and take unpaid classes to become a stockbroker. You can guess how the story ends. Gardner rose to the top of his firm and became a multi-millionaire.
The secret to happiness, in life and in business. I knew the Oakland, California subway station Gardner had slept in because I passed it each day on my train trip into San Francisco. I had plenty of time to contemplate the advice he gave, words that changed the course of my career. “How did you find the strength, the spirit, to keep going?” I asked Gardner. “Carmine, here’s the secret to success: find something you love to do so much, you can’t wait for the sun to rise to do it all over again.”
Each day when I rode past the station I would think about those words. It forced me to question my choices and the daily trips into the city, which I dreaded. I wasn’t waiting for the sun to shine; I was waiting for it to go down so I could head home. I quit the PR firm, trading the stability of a salary for the instability of a start-up. Last week I was invited to BookExpo America, a prestigious book industry conference in New York, to sign copies of my sixth book. Gardner’s advice had changed my life and my business.
The most inspiring leaders are those who don’t work at a job but pursue a calling. In doing so they inspire the rest of us to be our best selves and to match our skills with our passions. They give us confidence to pursue our dreams. Sometimes those dreams might lead an employee to find another job position in the same company or, in some cases, to leave the company altogether. And that’s okay. If an employee leaves your company and can say that your leadership inspired them to find their true calling, you will be rewarded in far more ways than you can imagine. If anything, you’re more likely to attract the people who really want to be on the bus instead of those who are daydreaming about finding another ride. I’ve also noticed that people who choose to remain with inspiring leaders admire those leaders for caring about their staff personally and professionally. Employees are more likely to stay with inspiring leaders (provided they are in the right roles) and more likely to speak highly of them. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” True leaders satisfy our ‘chief want.’
Chris Gardner inspired me to think differently about my own career choices. When I started my business there were many nights when I couldn’t sleep because I didn’t know how we were going to pay the bills. Today I can’t sleep for a different reason—I keep looking out the window and waiting for the sun to rise to do it all over again.
Carmine Gallo is the communications coach for the world’s most admired brands. He is a popular keynote speaker and author of several books, including the international bestsellers The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs and The Innovation Secrets of Steve Jobs. His new book,The Apple Experience: Secrets to Building Insanely Great Customer Loyalty is the first book to reveal the secrets behind the stunning success of the Apple Retail Store. Carmine has recently launched an eLearning course titled, The New Rules Of Persuasive Presentations. Follow Carmine on Facebook or Twitter.
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  • Lawrence MwambaLawrence Mwamba 11 months ago
    This life story is very inspiring, it gives you the gusto to take the calling or best said the giftings you are good at and propell yourself to success.
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  • Success UniversitySuccess University 11 months ago
    Awesome, Gardner’s story is really inspiring. Love the quote also: “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
    Keep following your passion!
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    Carmine GalloCarmine Gallo, Contributor 11 months ago
    I’m glad you like both the Gardner and Emerson quotes. Truly life changing if you listen to what they have to say.
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  • AnonAnon 11 months ago
    Very inspirational person. I can say that his life very closely mirrors my own. At times we fear loss so much that we are afraid to succeed. This is proof that we should fear nothing in the path of our goals and dreams.
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    Carmine GalloCarmine Gallo, Contributor 11 months ago
    Anon, losing something you’ve come to expect is very difficult which is why so many people are stuck in positions that either hate or are ill-suited for. Smart leaders hire people who have a passion for the work or the brand. The rest takes care of itself.
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  • More remarkable than the fine ending is the persistence shown in the face of struggle and rejection. Most amazing is the grit with which Chris pursued self actualization and growth. Kudos to the spirit of learning and to folks with a sense-of-self. Thank you for sharing, Carmine.
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  • sigmadeltasigmadelta 11 months ago
    Wonderful view.
    The discovery and pursuit of one’s calling is an alignment with enlightenment – a joy.
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    Carmine GalloCarmine Gallo, Contributor 11 months ago
    What a nice quote. Thank you.
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  • Deborah L. JacobsDeborah L. Jacobs, Forbes Staff 11 months ago
    There’s nothing better than doing what you love. Changing careers to follow my passion may have even saved my life, as I wrote here.
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    Carmine GalloCarmine Gallo, Contributor 11 months ago
    Deborah, I believe I remember reading this story. Thanks so much for linking to it again. Amazing story.
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